ADHD centres on attention, activity levels and impulse control. People with ADHD may be easily distracted, disorganized, restless or impulsive. They often understand social rules well but struggle to apply them in the moment, for example interrupting without meaning to.
Autism centres on differences in social communication and interaction, together with restricted or repetitive behaviours and interests, which can include a strong preference for routine and sensory sensitivities. Autistic people may find unwritten social rules genuinely unclear, rather than hard to follow.